Approach

THE CORE STORY

We do not suffer because there is something wrong with us. It is because we believe that there is something wrong with us that we suffer.

Many of us come to therapy because, at some level, we think that there is something wrong with us. Perhaps we are struggling with persistent patterns of depression, addiction, or unsatisfying relationships. Or we have a sense that life does not have the meaning and vibrancy that we imagine it could, but we do not know how to find it.  Potentially we have been feeling this way for many years, maybe even a lifetime.

Given all of this, it is natural and wise that we want to change our situation. However we then make the assumption, often unconsciously, that we are unhappy because of some flaw in who we are. So we seek out some form of therapy, healing, or coaching as a way to “fix” ourselves. But there always seems to be more to work on, and the satisfaction we seek is somehow always out of our reach.

In reality, we have the whole thing backwards. We do not suffer because there is something wrong with us. It is because we believe that there is something wrong with us that we suffer. We only miss this obvious fact because almost everything in our culture is telling us otherwise, and the belief has become so conditioned and unconscious.

In fact there is not, nor has there ever been, something wrong with who you truly are. There is a natural wisdom, love, and strength at the center of us all. We have simply overlooked this in all of our efforts to make ourselves something else.

In my work, I help people to let go of the conscious and unconscious beliefs that are at the very root of their unhappiness, and remember how to listen to and live from their own inner knowing. People then find that their lives begin to change spontaneously and organically,
not from trying to fill a feeling of lack, but as a natural expression of wholeness.

In the end, the result of this work is not a “a new and improved you”. It is a life lived from freedom.